Perhaps we are expected saintly lovers who have magical abilities to love us unconditionally and their unconditional love will heal all our wounds and we'll turn into doves and ascend into clouds. Does that sound farfetched? We choose to forget that everyone carries wounds to their heart and to their soul. And wounds only attract more wounds whether those are matching wounds of another person (who seems so alluring with those matching wounds) or we attract people who will wound us deeper. It's like someone ripping out stitches to a gaping wound and pouring vinegar into the wound.
If we love ourselves we will know this is wrong behavior and fight the person off with all that we have and not feel an ounce of guilt. But if we don't love ourselves we will rationalize that we deserved that treatment from the other person and they will twists our words and manipulate us into thinking that it's for our own good because we are a naughty person. I have discovered this ugly pattern in my life and I'm seeing it played out in the world in horrendous ways with the blame and shame game that leads to more guilt and self-loathing. The problem is epidemic and yet, no one is addressing it.
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Venus in Capricorn asks us to take a sober look at how we treat ourselves. Do we feed ourselves healthy food, do we drink enough water and do we get exercise in the fresh air. Or do we throw ourselves into our work so we can shut out the rest of the world and not heal our deeper wounds? Is hiding from wounds the true cause of workaholism and other forms of self-punishment? Do we feel guilty because we have so much stuff and other people in the world have nothing? What good is there in getting rid of all your stuff just because someone else doesn't have anything? Wouldn't it be better to donate time, resources and money toward a cause that lifts these people out of poverty rather than punishing yourself? Venus has a say in this behavior too.
Venus in Capricorn also has to do with treating our body with the respect it deserves. Since Capricorn represents discipline and integrity as well as, responsibility, we need to treat our bodies more lovingly. Our bodies represent the first structure in our life. Haven't we referred to our bodies as our temples? And if we desecrate our bodies, we desecrate a holy temple, a sacred and divine vehicle that did not return to the earth to punish his or herself. We really came here to experience Divine Love in action amongst our forgetfulness. Venus is about love after all and not just romantic love. Combine Venus with Neptune as in a flowing aspect or a flowing transit and you really could transcend the suffering in the world and get a glimpse of the bigger picture.
When Spirit leads the way, Venus and Saturn can create a fair playing field where women's contributions in the work place are recognized and rewarded. Men and women get along because of mutual respect and creativity flows from both men and women creating a harmonious environment of shared gifts and self-honoring. Well, Venus is staying a long time in Capricorn with the retrograde and this gives us time (until March) to reach for this idealistic dream. And isn't that what Venus does, hand us idealistic dreams?
The most healing thing we can do for the world is to love ourselves. When we love ourselves we take care of our needs. We say no when "no" is appropriate and we stand up for our truths in the face of opposition without allowing our opponents to twists our words or cause us to feel shame or guilt. In fact, we know when we have reached a place of self-love when no one can make us feel anything we don't choose to feel. When we reach the point when we say no and not feel remorse or guilt, then Venus has taught us the most important lesson of all. We finally ascend to knowing our true Divine Essence and we love the world without expecting any reciprocation because the act of love is enough.
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