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I think of all the times an astrologer with an air or fire sign sun trampled over my water sign emotions and feelings. They did not do this intentionally, but they were coming from their own frame of mind and experiences, which frankly, felt foreign to me. They might as well have spoken German to me. And if I approached a fire or air sign client from a place of feeling, I would quickly lose their attention too. I might as well speak Swahili to them.
Besides, becoming conscientious of a client's energy, I'm starting to think I would be better off giving private astrology lessons so that clients can read their natal charts instead of consulting, which just feels like me telling them who they are. However, I still believe there are merits with synastry (relationship charts), transit, and Solar Return readings.
If the client is open to discussing the different areas of their lives, their communication style, etc then reading a natal chart as a conversation with the client and with the astrologer listening to the client and not acting dismissive, this could be a valuable experience. Yes, the astrologer has years of knowledge and expertise, but the client knows or himself more intimately than the astrologer. If the astrologer is also a life coach or psychologist then some necessary digging is appropriate as is motivation to get a client out of denial or apathy.
Most of the unethical practices on my list apply to astrologers, life coaches, healers, and spiritual teachers. Our job is to share the information we have without claiming that it is the only truth. After all, with quantum physics, we literally could be living different truths and different realities based on numerous dimensions presented to us. And I know how challenging it is to remove the chaff from the wheat, societal and parental beliefs from our authentic beliefs based on our soul's journey.
And last but not least, we all channel Higher Beings and we all have a direct connection to God so if information coming to you from a human (even if he or she tells you that they're channeling God or Mother Mary), doesn't jive with you and leaves you feeling conflicted then work through the conflict you feel to learn what's true for you. Remember, that teachers have agendas, (unconscious and conscious) and you don't ever need to buy another person's agenda. And even professional channels experience energy traffic jams.
1. Never dump unsolicited advice on anyone ever.
If someone needs help wait for him or her to ask for advice and even then, tread lightly. Don’t trespass on another person’s soul or soul lesson. I like Esther Hick’s and Abraham’s advice, “Mind your own business.”
2. Don’t act like a know-it-all or promote the idea that God talks only through you.
God, angels, saints, etc talk through and to everyone. It’s just a matter for tuning into the frequency. If you want to help others, teach them how to tune into the frequency so that they can have a private and uninterrupted conversation with God.
3. Allow people to discover them selves through tools that you give them.
Show them how to work with the tools, but don’t tell people who they are in your estimation. Don’t rob others of self-discovery that empowers them. You cannot empower someone else, but the tools you give them can and you also create a healthy relationship with this person free of co-dependence. I like that saying by Jesus about teaching people how to fish so that they can fend for themselves.
4. Never tell someone to change their life through drastic means.
Humans don’t adapt to drastic changes without acquiring wounds and resentment. Change is a gradual step-by-step process. Give the person a map, teach them how to read the map and then set them loose upon the world.
5. Share your personal examples of self-improvement and your journey but don’t expect others to follow your example.
We are all unique and with our uniqueness we pave our own roads. Pre-pavers are a drag because they leave us with no satisfying work to accomplish. It’s like eating someone else’ food for them.
6. Allow other people to make mistakes.
People grow wiser by making mistakes, taking wrong turns, or making “wrong” choices, which in retrospect might have been the right choice for that person’s soul path.
7. Don’t assume that you have the solutions to other people’s problems and don’t try to fix other people’s problems so that you can feel better and stroke your ego.
People grow by fixing their own problems and when they need help it is their responsibility to ask for it. You inspire people when you solve your problems and stop trying to change the world to fit your needs.
8. Don’t assume that a tragic event is not the highest good for a person or a community.
First, you don’t know the souls’ lessons and second, when you tell someone that they could have done something differently to avoid a tragedy, you blame the victim. How is this helpful? This attitude heals no one and can actually cause damage.